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There's No Right or Wrong when it's Your
I remember the first time I even came close
to having sex with a woman; I was so petrified that I wouldn't be able to
please a woman that I literally just wanted to run away, get in my car, and
drive home to save myself from embarrassment. However, I had to get over
this ludicrous fear at some point; after all, I was a woman and who knows
how to satisfy a woman more than a woman, herself? Its true to say that different
things affect and pleasure women in different ways, but bear in mind that
you don't have to know exactly what turns her on as soon as you kiss her
... lesbian lovemaking is a feast of exploration and discovery that you should
I always thought that there would be some text
book guide to first-time lesbian sex, but the truth is that how can a book
guide you through sex when it doesn't know what ultimately turns your partner
on? I believe that if you think you are close to having sex with your partner
(for the first time), or you are just so absolutely gagging for it that you
are going to go out and get it soon, there are some things that you should
bear in mind ... I call them my top five
1. Never Get Drunk
Heterosexual sex is like wham-bam-thank-you-mam,
whereas lesbian sex can take place over the course of a few frantic minutes
to a few lust filled hours. Whatever situation you may face I always think
it's important to stay sober. There would be nothing worse than finding
the room spinning and the toilet beckoning; it's a complete turn off for
her and a missed opportunity for you! I had a couple of glasses of wine before
my first time, but anything more than that is asking for trouble!
2. Know Your Body and What You Like
I think the first thing you need to understand
(before you make love to a woman) is your own body, and, yes, I am talking
about masturbation here! If you can identify what turns you on, and where
you like to be touched, then you may be able to translate that to her body.
Of course, every single woman is different, and has different fantasies and
desires - but having some idea of where to touch a woman, and how hard
or soft, is a good starting point! Also, understanding what you like will
prove to be useful when your partner wants to know what you want her to do!
3. Plenty of Foreplay
Lesbian sex is like a voyage of discovery. When
the ship sets sail you don't automatically turn into a muff diving fanatic!
Foreplay is the key to sexual arousal with women, and I often think that
the more foreplay you have the better the sex will be! For your first time,
it will also give you the opportunity to touch your partner, get to know
the entirety of her body and give you breathing space to relax. Sex will
come naturally and the more foreplay you give each other, the more sexually
aroused you will become and the more breathtaking the sex will be!
4. Don't be Afraid to Communicate
I don't think there's any point in lying there
like a meek mouse, too afraid to communicate. Ask her what she likes, ask
her where she wants to be touched, and find out what she wants you to do.
If your partner is more sexually experienced than you (on the lesbian front)
then she will probably direct you, but don't be afraid to have the confidence
to talk! You also need to tell her what you like, too; if you don't want
to actually say the words then soft moaning or gasps will do the trick!
5. Keep it Simple
Wherever your first lesbian sexual encounter
takes place, don't make it complicated. Don't come armed with dildos and
vibrators - or spend hours memorizing the Lesbian Karma Sutra! It will
just end up getting so complex and cumbersome that the event probably won't
even take place. I think that you should keep it simple for your first time,
and take pleasure in each other and your bodies. Being inventive with sexual
positions, or introducing sex toys into your sex life, will come with time
and there's no need to rush!
In a final passing sentence I would just like
to add that if you're partner doesn't orgasm the first time you have sex
with her this does not mean you are a failure. It takes time to understand
the intricacies of female/ female sex and you can't become an expert overnight.
I believe that practice makes perfect!