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Are You a Lesbian Or Are You Bisexual?
Sexuality is full of labels, the most prominent
being straight or gay. As a society we love to live in boxes or to be labeled
so that we feel part of some kind of group; it helps us to become comfortable
with our way of life. At some point in your existence you will find yourself
thinking, "Oh I like women, therefore I must be a lesbian" or "Oh no, I like
men, therefore I am heterosexual". This is called determining your sexuality.
But what happens if you have a burning sexual attraction for both men and
women? Is this just a phase you are going through, or do you fit into the
box labeled bisexual?
Being bisexual basically means that you are
attracted to, and would engage in sexual activity with, both male and female
partners. Bisexuals are probably the most misunderstood people in society.
Lesbians and gays find it just as hard to accept as straight people that
there are human beings that exist on this earth that are sexually attracted
to both men and women. Bisexuals often get taunted for being the lazy sexuality,
people that can't make up their minds, or people that just won't commit.
In reality, bisexual people are those of us that can fall in love with a
man, or a woman, and couldn't care less what sex they are and what type of
genitals they have. They recognize the inner being rather than the outer
Lesbian Or Bisexual?
We all go through a period of discovering our
sexual identity. This can be during puberty, or it can take place much later
on in life - especially if someone has kept their true sexuality under wraps
for decades because they were afraid of rejection. It can be incredibly hard
to come to terms with the fact that you are sexually attracted to women,
but people who are confused about their sexuality struggle even more when
they can't determine whether they like men or women more.
If you find that you can relate to this dilemma
then it sounds like you are trying to determine whether you are a lesbian
or a bisexual. Before anything else, start by answering the five questions
below with a simple YES or NO answer.
1. Do you find both men and women attractive?
2. Is it the person rather than the gender that
attracts you to people?
3. Can you be sexually aroused by both men and
4. Do you find yourself fantasizing about sex
with both men and women?
5. Do you enjoy sex with both men and women
(if you have had sex with both sexes)?
If your answer to all of these questions is
yes, then you could be bisexual; 'could' being the operative word
in this sentence. The truth is that there is no steadfast rule, or description,
that you can match yourself against to say whether you are leaning towards
lesbianism or bisexuality. The answer lies in the test of time. You just
have to go with the flow, allow yourself to gain sexual experience, and decide
for yourself. Don't allow yourself to be labeled straight, or gay, by society
just because that's the way most people like to live. If, at this present
moment in time, you want to have sex with both men and women then you should
allow yourself to do so.
Then, in time, you will be able to decide for
yourself whether bisexuality is your true path, or you were actually a lesbian
all along but you were frightened to let go of the apron strings of
heterosexuality. At the end of the day the label doesn't matter; it's what's
on the inside that counts. Straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual; they are all
just words that put groups of people in boxes. Maybe bisexuals break the
mould, but if you love men and women then who are we to argue!