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Not All Lipstick Lesbians are Lesbians!

Lipstick lesbians - or femmes, as they are traditionally known - are getting a really tough deal at the moment. Not only do many straight people fail to recognize their identity as true lesbians, but some butch lesbians will not accept them as part of the crowd, either. It's hardly surprising, though, as in recent years an increasing number of fake lesbians have been on the scene, many of them adopting a feminine guise, making it difficult to know which one is real, and which one is fake! But why are there so many women around that are called lipstick lesbians when they're not really lesbians at all?

We look closely at three main types of lipstick lesbians that are around nowadays and distinctly categorize them so you can spot the real from the fake from a mile off!

A Traditional Lipstick Lesbian

The traditional portrayal of a lipstick lesbian (or femme as they were known) was born back in the 1950's and 1960's. Whilst lesbianism wasn't really socially accepted, society dictated that a lesbian woman either had to be a butch, manly lesbian who wore men's clothes, or a feminine lesbian who wore skirts, coiffed hair and make up. In fact, many lesbian bars would not let you enter if you weren't dressed as either a butch or a femme. It was also believed that a femme should only be attracted to a butch lesbian, almost as if they were seeking a male role model in a female! Many such femmes still exist today.

A Modern Lipstick Lesbian

Whilst lesbian couples openly admit that there is a butch and a femme personality in many relationships, we don't feel the need to seek an opposite in a partner in terms of the way we dress, or behave, as much anymore. Thus, lesbian relationships have evolved and a modern lipstick lesbian will often have a feminine partner. You only have to frequent a local lesbian club to see that naturally feminine women are dating other feminine women, and vice versa. With lesbians feeling slightly more liberated than a few decades ago (although we still have a long way to go to feel totally socially accepted) we are confident enough to rid the slightly tainted view that one female in the relationship should look like, or act like, more of a man. It's more of a natural selection process in finding a partner nowadays, rather than looking for your opposite.

A Fake Lipstick Lesbian

It sounds unbelievable but there is an increasing number of new lipstick lesbians around, and these can be grouped into what we like to call fake lipstick lesbians. There are a couple of different types.

Firstly, thanks to the male fascination with lesbian sex, there are women who work in the porn industry who have sex with other women for financial gain. These are always feminine women as they have to attract and arouse a male audience. They are not real lesbians at all; they probably get off the set and go home to their boyfriends, or husbands. They are just into lesbianism for the money. These are easy to identify; dumb blondes, or brunettes, on the covers of lesbian porn movies with fake boobs and plastic surgery galore. You are hardly likely to bump into them in your local bar, though!

The second set of fake lipstick lesbians we want to draw to your attention are much more dangerous. An increasing number of straight women are actually using lesbian advances to their advantage! They are either "trying out lesbianism" to impress friends, or they are actually using it as a male pulling tactic. As the majority of men get incredibly turned on when they see two feminine women kiss, many straight women will pounce on friends, or unsuspecting lesbians, to draw attention to themselves and pull men! These are much harder to identify, but if you happen to come across a woman hanging out in your district with her eye on the men as she chats to you then avoid at all costs unless you want to spend time getting to know whether she's real, or fake. If in any doubt, your gaydar should never fail you so trust your gut instincts!

Thirdly and finally, you shouldn't believe that you are safe at work either! If you have a high powered career; nice car; fabulous home; and three holidays a year then word soon gets about! There are gold diggers in the fake lipstick lesbian world and they often see highly successful lesbian women as an easy target in comparison to men. Some of your female employees will find the dollar or pound signs flashing before their eyes, and, before they or you know it, they will turn lesbian and make sexual advances to either get themselves promoted, or get their hands on your well-earned cash! It's best to not mix business with pleasure!

If you find that a recent promotion or step up in your financial position increases the number of women who express sexual attraction to you in your neighborhood beware of them, as well. Many of them will be straight women wanting a piece of your lifestyle! In this situation it's best to rule yourself with your head, rather than your heart, and - although this is often incredibly difficult for us emotional lesbians - it does save heartache in the long run.

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